Thank you for donating for my first triathlon

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I took part  in my first Triathlon this year at Epping, 300 metres  pool swim followed by 21km bike and 4 km run.  I surprised myself, very much enjoyed it and I am still in one piece with no real ache! It was hot thought

I have decided to raise money for 2 good causes.

The  Mumba project.  Winning women, my business group  has been supporting the Mumba Project for several years. It is amazing how a few pounds here and there can do to help a whole community in Africa.

I am also supporting Infinity Tri, my local triathlon club in Chelmsford and Maldon. I am particularly impressed with the work of the coaches there who consistently support and train youngsters and adults and have shown dedication and passion for the sport. They are all givingso much of  their time and energy and I am grateful for the  constant encouragement given by everyone attending and coaching. The team work is incredible and it  is a good place to learn and train.

Thank you for giving generously

Please donate using the paypall button below and I will share the funds between the two causes equally.




Thank  you very much

Helene

Any problem send me an email on beconfident@helenemusso.com

5 tips on how to “read” your audience when speaking in public  

IMG_6002 On the 30th of January 2017, I was invited to deliver a Public Speaking workshop introducing my 5 keys to unlock your speaking at the University of Essex, inColchester.

I was faced with a mixture of students from the University, half of them speaking English as a second language and about 5 external participants eager to discover or improve their public speaking.

My work is very interactive and a question came up about how to “listen” to your audience or to “read your audience”.

The word “listen” was first used but really how do you listen realistically to an audience whilst delivering your talk?

The question is more about “reading your  audience” and “feeling” the level of engagement of the audience and being able to adjust and to adapt your delivery in terms of pace and activities to maintain and sustain their attention and their interest throughout so that you can fully engage them for the duration of your talk.  

When you talk to a friend or a colleague, on a one to one basis, communication is more straightforward, nodding,  smiling, asking questions, turning your body towards each other. All this helps to create a rapport and to develop relationship and ultimately develop communication. But what happens when you are standing facing a group, how can you still read the audience and therefore get their full engagement?  

In this blog, I will reveal my 5 best tips to address that issue.

1/  How do you consider your audience, all these eyes and blank faces looking straight at on you? Do you consider your audience as  a “mob” as it was said by one of the  participant in my workshop at the University of Essex, or as a hostile big pack of wolf or a terrifying pride of lions. May I invite you to consider your audience as friends and as having a one to one conversation with each member of the group. Friend or foe? What is the best alternative? I am asking you. This alone should alleviate some of your fears associated with speaking and make you a more authentic and approachable speaker.

2/ Make your audience interact with you, for example by asking  them questions but also allow thinking time and talking time with other attendees. People reflect and develop their learning by sharing it and by learning cooperatively. You may be the expert but an audience will respect you for taking their ideas into consideration. Have a flip chart in hand and use it. Having the ideas of the audience written on paper validate the participants and actually increase their engagement as their ideas are taken into consideration. If possible use their language and repeat their actual words but if not clear, paraphrase their ideas and ask for clarification so that you write what they actually mean. Never consider that an answer may be silly but thank a clumsy participant for their contribution.

IMG_60163/ Consider your speech or presentation as a gift instead of just a talk. You are offering your knowledge and expertise, you are gifting them with the joy to learn, to be informed and to be entertained. Even if the content of the talk/speech is not yours, familiarise yourself with it so that it becomes yours. Obviously do it with ethos and the boundaries of your principles. It is much difficult to deliver a speech with authenticity  if one disagrees with the content of the material one delivers. Decide when and where to draw the line. Take responsibility.

5/ Keep your audience active physically : Ever felt tired sitting for too long and even if you were interested feeling more and more drowsy, why not asking your audience to move?  It can be as simple as standing up and shaking their body or giving a high five to another participants or it may involve moving physically in the room by playing a game or joining an activity. The range of movement will be dependant on the room you use and the size of the group but I strongly believe that we can ask the audience to move to actually re- engage with their learning and refocus them on the topic in hand.

5/ Treat participants equally, think inclusion. As a speaker you are there for the whole group not for the noisy or the most difficult ones, everyone’s idea deserves to be heard, especially if you can see that they are trying to. If you know your audience ( you are a teacher or a lecturer) please, please ban favouritism and adopt a policy of inclusion with pride as part of your principles and your ethos.
These are my best tips but there are so many more. I will be running some of my own  training  very soon and you will have to take part!

Public speaking at the University of Essex

 

Changing perceptions, change time

school run Changing perceptions, change time.

Everyday millions of us get the kids to school and battle against time to get them ready, looking fresh with  packed lunch and PE bag and a big kiss on their cheeks. Everyday after that school run, how many of you feel exhausted by it and often annoyed as you might even have lost your temper because your so-called child could not even be bothered to hurry up. If this is stressing you out, I can tell you that it has for me for years and I recently decided that it had to change as my son was increaasingly getting worried and annoyed by his usually good humoured mum suddenly changing from kind to being a mean bear a bit like in Toy story.

I started making it easier on myself

1/ Make getting organised a little ritual .  I now get organised the night before, if possible, and put neatly folded Leon trousers shirt, pants and socks on top of my wardrobe. I enjoy the folding and have considered where it is best to place it so that it will be visible to me and Leon in the morning. This was a big achievement as I am quite spontaneous and random but  once I realized that would save me looking in the morning and allow me to get dressed instead of rummaging to find some clean clothes

2/ I had already decided that I would not do packed lunch for my children. Some of us might argue that schools meals are expensive, is it really. Most of the meals cost £2 , a £10 , £390 a year but complete peace of mind and knowing that they will have a balanced meal and that your mornings are not going to be so stressful, is it not worth that amount?

3/ Change your perception of time- make time a friend instead of an enemy!

Our routine goes like that

We get up at any time between 6.45 and 7.10. We chat and play up until 7.30 then we have breakfast and at 8 we have bath and get ready to leave at about 8.35. Now at about 8 I used to panic and by 8.15 started to get anxious about being on time. I have decided to let go and not worry anymore and after a few morning hiccups,  this morning was magic

Both up at 7 am, Leon decided to write a party invitation on the computer, we decided on the date, which kids to invite and he went to do the invit. I started dreaming, picked up a book and started reading. At 7.30, we had breakfast and at 8 went into the bath and Leon joined, we talked and played for a short while and then i got dressed and sorted out his PE back and his snack. I did not look at the time but at 8.30 I was nearly ready. There was no “Let’s get ready , Leon we are going to be late”, only “Please would you brush your teeth” and when he went, no a few times to tease me. I said firmly but kindly, please brush your teeth. We were out of the house at 8.42 and on time for school and walking and chatting.

Feel the time instead of check the time- guess the time and then have a look but do not get obsessed . In dealing with kids let them be a bit, Have you noticed that you are ordering them all the time and telling them off when they do not do what you want them to do immediately? Some kids are dreaming, when playing they are so engaged in the present, they won’t hear you

Make it simple for yourself : breathe if you feel the tension, watch my video on Breathing 

  • Make small changes be worthy of your attention. i used to think that small things details as i called it were not important.  I now bring it them  to the forefront, to my attention to improve my life.
  • If you want to get rid of something in your life, like no more drinking coffee or  no more wine, replace them by something else that you enjoy, find a substitute, I love fizzy water so I drink gallons now when I feel like having a glass of wine. Not quite the same but overall ok. I do not restrict myself, just organise it so that i am not going to drink too much during the week and also drink when I am out

Helene is a mission to improve her life and the life of others and helps others to find their voice and overcome their fears of speaking in public, in meetings, in social gathering and in life. Find her on helenemusso.com 

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Helene is a dreamer, a poet, a trainer,  a coach, a mother, a daughter.  She is passionate about helping others to find their voices through her training. Get in touch with her helenemusso.com. If you want to book a discovery call with her, please get in touch on 07875627485. If you want to buy her book, click here.

 

Where is Helene in 2017

University of Essex
Scared of speaking in  front of others?

Presenting for your  own business or for your company and feeling out of your depth?

In need of a bit of je ne sais quoi and some inspiration!

Come along to meet me in Southend in June. You can also find me on Facebook on my business page here   or on Linkedin

 Meet me in June in Southend

I am running a interactive course on “how to prepare yourself for business presentations at events, fairs and conferences” at the Hive in Southend. It is aimed at new and existing businesses using presentations and willing to exhibit and present to enhance their business. It is free and run from 10 to 12 on the 8th of June.

I am presenting my own business Public Speaking Demystified with an interactive and engaging workshop at the Essex Women business experience on Friday the 16th of June. at the Park Inn in Southend. It is a popular business exhibition with lots of networking to be done, male and female! Tickets for the experience are £10 only or £15 for 2. Book here 

I am running my own course Day course Public Speaking demystified Tame the fear on Thursday the 29th of June at the Hive Enterprise in Southend . The course is aimed at people who are really afraid of speaking in public and who would like to conquer their fears.  Details here.

 Ongoing Networking: Come to Winning women as most of my collaboration started with Rosemary Cunnigham and Winning women. I co-run Winning Women Chelmsford and you can find us the 4th Friday of every month at the Baddow Barn,Great Baddow,  Chelmsford 10 to 12!

Helene is a dreamer, a poet, a trainer,  a coach, a mother, a daughter.  She is passionate about helping others to find their voices through her training. Get in touch with her helenemusso.com. If you want to book a discovery call with her, please get in touch on 07875627485. If you want to buy her book, click here.

3 reasons why collaboration is essential for your business and your work.

collaboration New Year,  New resolution, New you, New Collaboration. 

There is strength in collaboration and 2017 is going to be the year of Collaboration.

Here are 3 reasons why collaboration is essential for your business/work.

1/ Nothing has ever been invented by one person alone.

Every successful man or woman have other people, family friends, colleagues, spouses, business partners  in their lives to support them. Being independent does not mean doing everything by yourself. If credit might be given to one person,  it actually appears that it is often the work of several other over a period time, like this controversial article on Edison.

I used to be a teacher and I went dutifully to my school/college/ special needs school- yes I have worked in a lot of places- and followed the rhythm of terms and events during the term ranging from Harvest to Christmas to Easter and so on.

Whilst working at Harlow college in early 2000’s, I often went to see the secretaries for help on a range of tasks:  printing, editing, sorting or for promoting a play, an art’s evening including administrative tasks I needed to do but was not quite sure how to do myself. I was eternally grateful but it was normal to me. My job was to teach, theirs was to support my work.

2/If you do everything yourself, overwhelm is likely to follow.

When I officially  left a few years ago to set up my  own business, after the euphoria of creating my  own “baby”,  I realised that all what I had taken for granted meant that now if I wanted something done,  I needed to act  and, most of the time do whatever needed to be done myself!

Being proud, independent and an emancipated woman, it took me a long time and still sometimes-ah ah, how asking for help when you have brought as a french girl  in the legacy of May 68 does to you- to understand that I could not do it on my own.

This business of mine was not going to fully happen without help. Armed with more wisdom and having done the donkey’s work- can we consider a book to be the foundation of the work ? I decided that I needed some help. I reached out and magic started to happen.

3/ What happens if you are ill? Have you thought about that one?

A spell of illness in 2016 comforted my need for help. What happens when you are ill and run your own business. Not much I can tell you! You also lose momentum and energy about a bout of sickness and you may lose clients whilst being ill.

4/ We are not equipped or skilled at everything, let’s acknowledge it instead of going in denial and pretending to be good at everything. Let’s be resourceful instead!

Help with putting in place a more serious marketing strategy: who says marketing is fun? It is if you like it. My idea of fun is to be in front of a group helping them to overcome their fears and allowing them to realise their own grandness.That is my idea of fun, the rest is a bit irrelevant but I can not talk to myself for ever. Watch this space for a new brand  website from Paul Alexander in Billericay IT with all my new courses from March onwards… 

Queen of collaboration- check my current collaborative projects here,  and loving the buzz it gives me! Now it is your turn.

What is collaboration for  you? Can we realistically achieve anything on our own? Why is collaboration so important when you run your business or when you want to run a work project? If you have a blog on collaboration and would like to present it to me, I would like to invite  you as a guest blogger! 

Helene is a dreamer, a poet, a trainer, a coach, a mother, a daughter.  She is passionate about helping others to find their voices through her training. Get in touch with her helenemusso.com. If you want to book a discovery call with her, please get in touch on 07875627485. If you want to buy her book, click here.